In last week’s article I pointed out The Big Three Signs that you are blocking yourself from receiving. They are three areas in your life that can easily show you if you’re out of balance in your giving and receiving exist.
Today we’re going to look at why that imbalance exists and keeps you from accepting your natural flow of abundance. But first, let me set something straight: There is nothing blameful in saying that you’re blocking yourself. I know that on the surface it sounds ridiculous: Why would you intentionally keep yourself from having the things that you want? How ridiculous is that?!
To better understand why this happens, there are a few “ground rules” of thinking about this topic that we need to apply:
Rule A) It’s not something that you’re doing consciously. (Duh. Because if it was, you’d have changed it already.) These blocks that we’re talking about are in your energy field where you probably won’t notice them unless you’ve been trained or have an instinct for perceiving energy patterns.
Rule B) Believe it or not, these blocks are energy patterns that you chose. At the moment that you chose/accepted/created the blocks, it seemed like the perfectly logical thing to do – but only from a perspective that was dramatically clouded by fear, guilt, shame, anger, or another very low emotion.
Rule C) Acknowledging that this is your doing gives you a Point of Power. If we go with the idea that someone or something else created these blocks, then that means someone or something else has to un-create them. But on the other hand, if you’re the one who created them, then you are in complete control of getting rid of them. The power is in your hands; no one else can stop you.
When you read about the three main themes why you’re blocking yourself from receiving, you might be thinking, “I don’t remember anything like this happening to me” or “I don’t remember making that decision.” This leads to our last two ground rules:Read More»
Our Universe is designed to support balance in giving and receiving. If you think about it, the two are inextricably linked: In order for someone to receive, someone else has to give. In order for someone to give, there has to be someone else to receive it.
A person is balanced when she gives and receives equally. Note that this doesn’t mean that she has to get the same that she gives, because maybe her needs are different from those around her. It means that the overall quality and impact of what she gives is equal to what she receives. Having this balance creates joy in her life.
But a significant portion of the people I serve – in fact, all of my recent Inner Circle clients – were severely out-of-balance when we met. Their lives were all about give, give, give and they didn’t receive much in return. These smart, sensitive women had been carrying secret burdens of anger and resentment, because they felt unappreciated, unloved, or unsupported. They were far from joyful during most of their days.
What became clear with every one of these women is that they were out of balance not because people weren’t giving to them, but because they were blocked from receiving. They had a deep, innate, unresolved collection of old emotions, limiting beliefs, and karmic debts that were keeping them from accepting all the goodness that life has to offer them.Read More»
There are a lot of beliefs “out there” (and in each of us) about money, especially how God or anything holy or Divine feels about money.
I still hear now and then that money is the root of all evil. And based on the behaviors of many people who publicly have or seek money, I can understand why some believe it might be true. (Although it does overlook the good deeds of many other publicly wealthy people.)
And being someone who serves other spiritual people, I get to see up close how money stuff causes them to react. Usually it’s the inner conflict between “I want to be happy and abundant” and “I don’t need money to be happy” – but then one experience was quite shocking:
A few years ago I created a workshop called “Manifesting with the Angels.” The response was overwhelmingly positive – with one exception that really caught me off guard. When I sent the announcement to my list, one woman responded with such anger that I had to stop and check whether I was reading her email correctly. Her response to me was essentially, “How dare you use the Angels for such superficial purposes?” (That’s a paraphrase; I didn’t keep her email, nor have I thought about it in the years since, until I went to write this article.) She immediately unsubscribed from my email list, marked my messages as spam, and tried to launch a complaint against me with my internet service provider, using words like “charlatan.”
Looking back, I wish that this person, whom I’d met on several occasions and generally liked and respected, had allowed a chance for us to have a conversation. I truly would have loved to hear more about her thoughts and feelings on the topic…Read More»
When is the last time you remember being stuck?
Mentally stuck, perhaps emotionally stuck. Indecisive, uncertain, spinning your wheels. Not knowing what to do next. Stuck.
Maybe you’re feeling that way about something right now…
Do you know the most common reason for being stuck (in my totally unscientific, anecdotal evidence gleaned from countless conversations with clients, colleagues, and my own psyche)?
Needing to be perfect.
Yup. What often keeps us from making a decision is fear that we’ll make the wrong one. So instead we wait for someone to show up with a crystal ball and show us how each option will play out.
Which, of course, never happens. It can’t – and even if it did, wouldn’t that take the fun out of living?
While intellectually we might say, “Yes! Living, exploring, and making mistakes is fun!” – because that’s how we’re told we’re supposed to live, and it is truly what we want for ourselves - the secret reality is that our unconscious minds can be freaked out by the possibility of mistakes and surprises. And that fear can run paralyzingly deep.
Take for instance my client whom I’ll call “S.” She had entered an MBA program because she thought it might be a good step for her career, but she had no idea how she wanted to leverage her degree. There were several options before her, but all of them were either unappealing or downright scary to her. She was stuck.Read More»
And if so, what does it take?
Because there are certainly a lot of energy healers out there who don’t seem to be thriving.
Healers who are struggling to make a living, living primarily in lack.
Despite that, the answer is Yes, it’s possible - with a big “but.”
The “but” is that most healers don’t know how. There are common obstacles that most healers face; I know about them because over the last ten years I’ve hit every one. Most I have overcome; some I’m still working through.
What I can say with certainty is that there are common mistakes to avoid if you want to reach all of the people you came here to serve and make a prosperous living doing so. Here are three of them:
Mistake #1: Having too much faith in the Universe
That might be a provocative way to say it.
In Spiritual Truth, success and abundance come from putting your full faith in your higher power. When you do that, it is possible for clients to magically show up at your door.
The catch is, “full faith” must exists on all levels of your being, conscious and unconscious. It’s likely that you’ve got tons of unconscious and karmic stuff that keeps you from completely surrendering your faith and your fate to the higher realms.
Too many healers feel so compelled by their divine calling that they believe clients will magically show up. They focus so much on their connection to the spiritual world that they forget to ground to the physical world. But manifesting anything requires action in the physical realm, which you can’t do if you walk around with your head in the clouds.
Instead, you need to use that spiritual connection to intuit the steps that you need to take to create a successful practice.Read More»